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Bob & Feyma Martin - We're moving back to the USA

Bob & Feyma Martin – We’re moving back to the USA

We have decided to make a major change

Many people misinterpreted my September 19 article

Back in September, I published an article about whether Feyma and I would move back to the USA. As I said in the article, it is something we have been considering for several years. During these years, when we have considered moving back, we have always ended up deciding to stay in the Philippines.

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In our discussions in August and September, we again decided to stay in the Philippines, but we also decided we would travel to the USA every couple of years or so.

Since that article was published, an endless number of people have mentioned to me that they read that we were moving back to the USA, but as I say, that is not what the article said at all, in fact, it said the opposite.

Then came October

In October, we again revisited the topic. Feyma was in the USA at the time, just preparing things for her trip home to the Philippines (She arrived home on October 27 for those interested). While we were chatting, Feyma asked me if I would be interested in returning to live in the USA. I told Feyma that I was open to discussing it, and we talked, asked each other questions, and so on.

In 2017 and 2018, Feyma went to the USA (mostly Alaska) and worked for 6 months each year. For haters who have emailed me about this… it was Feyma’s choice to do this, not ideal for me, but I was supportive of my wife doing what she wished to do. Feyma explained to me that after spending significant time back in the USA over the past 2 years, she realized how much she missed the USA. Feyma lived in the USA for 10 years after our marriage. She told me that she feels more at home in the USA now, and that made me think.

I have not been back to the USA for nearly 19 years

Since moving to the Philippines in early 2000, I have never been back to the USA. I never really felt a desire to do so or had a real reason to go back. However, in recent years I have been feeling a bit of a pulling to go back home, at least to visit. After listening to Feyma talk about her desire, it made me start wanting to go back.

I started thinking about some of the drawbacks of life in the Philippines. Yes, there are drawbacks. There are a lot of downsides to living in the Philippines. But, there are also drawbacks of life in the USA too. There are drawbacks to every location in the world. No place is perfect.

Continuing husband and wife discussions

So, after discussing this over several days with Feyma, I agreed with her. I was ready to move back to the USA.

At first, it was more about supporting Feyma and giving her what she desired. I was fine with that. Feyma and I have been married for 28+ years. She has always followed me, done what I wanted to do.

In the 90’s, I decided that I wanted to move to the Philippines. It was not something that Feyma was interested in, but after some extended discussion, she agreed to follow what I wanted.

In recent years (kind of since my near death from heart disease), I have been trying to “re-invent” myself, or you could say improve myself. I have changed a lot of the way I handle things, how I handle relationships (especially with my wife) and other things about myself. I feel, and Feyma agrees, that I have been pretty successful on this journey. Giving Feyma a chance to take the lead is something that I am enjoying. The decision to move back to the USA is a big part of that.

As time went on…

After making the decision to give Feyma a chance to follow the path that she wants, we kept talking about it, making plans, etc. I started getting more excited about it. At this point, I am really ready to make the move as soon as possible. I am excited to go back.

More articles and information coming

This week, I will write an article on this topic each day telling more about our plans, reasons for our decision, and so on. I think we have made a good decision and will have a good and successful life in the United States.

In some ways, it is a bit scary to make such a move after living here in the Philippines for nearly 2 decades. But, it is also exciting, and filled with possibilities!

So, come back and visit each weekday (Philippine time) this week for more about why Bob & Feyma Martin are moving back to the USA!

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Bob Martin is the Publisher & Editor in Chief of the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine. Bob is an Internet Entrepreneur who is based in Davao. Bob is an American who has lived permanently in Mindanao since May 2000. Here in Mindanao, Bob has resided in General Santos City, and now in Davao City. Bob is the owner of this website and many others.

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Paul Thompson

Sir Bob;
To move or not to move is a decision, that only you and your family should make and be damned what anyone else thinks. But where ever you settle, back in the “Land of the big PX” (A military term meaning mall sized Post Exchange’s on US Base’s)
Let us know the fate of LiP, I see no reason why you can’t continue from where ever you live.
But bottom line, I wish you all the best for you and yours. Fair winds and following seas!

Michael P
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Michael P

Bob – I hope you will discuss the option of splitting time living in each place. This is our plan, but we have to sort out the one item of biggest cost which is health insurance when in the U.S. Love to hear your thoughts on this topic. I anxiously await your coming articles!

Paul
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Paul

I’ve been in the Phillippines for nearly five years and moved here because low educated liberals are ruining America. I’m proud of American history but ashamed of its current day form.

I’m excited for you in chasing the dream you desire but I can say for me a return to the U.S.A. will likely never happen.

Paul Thompson
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Paul Thompson

Never, say never. (LOL) I’ve lived here since 1993. Will I ever go back to live in the USA? I don’t “THINK” so, but fate has a way of changing all plans. Spread my ashes on Subic Bay!

Paul
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Paul

Completely agree and this is why I included “likely” before never. I have considered taking a trip of a couple months to America at some point but I’m even wishy-washy on that.

Currently in Angeles with a nice house completely paid for and have pondered buying another in Subic Bay. We might someday become neighbors.

Scott Mihaelis
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Scott Mihaelis

exactly the same here- 8 years and dont ever care to go back

kevin stuchlik
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kevin stuchlik

How scott do you suport yourself ?

Chaz Kiser
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I agree with you totally and always have the big move in the back of my mind but I can’t make near the income in PI that I can in KY.
I always have my Pinoy Paradise as the US seems to be getting less and tolerant under the guise of eradicating intolerance.

RT Cunningham
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Just like when people move to the Philippines, you should go on an exploratory trip. I’m on my second extended trip back to the USA and I can’t wait to get back to the Philippines. Things, in general, are far worse than I remember from 2006.

I’ll be leaving Florida in February and heading to Hawaii. I don’t know when I’ll leave again, but it will be before my ACR I-Card expires. I’m currently visiting an Aunt near DC (for three weeks) and it’s cold. I hate the cold.

John coldwell
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John coldwell

Hi Bob, I have been considering the same for Canada right now – tried it twice earlier (alone) but was not to my liking. Now I have been married to a Filipina for 6 years, I think it would be fun and educational for her. Unfortunately Canada is a bit restrictive in admitting Filipinas with no previous experience in working and living in Canada. I keep thinking of it, but I then think of how warm it is here in the Philippines – all year round! That has many benefits – both economic and healthfuil. Medical is expensive in all… Read more »

Ralph Castillo
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Ralph Castillo

Bob and Feyma home is where you make it. Life back is US is not the same as you may remember . Things have changed . I wish the US was still like 1970’s however it is not. We all change over time. Go back and check it out before making any move. God Bless.

Grizz
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Grizz

True.
It’s not the same as when you remember.

Tom N
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Tom N

Surprising, but I am sure you have been very thoughtful in your decision-making. I will be interested to see how this plays out.

And remember if you come to California to visit, we must connect!

Pita Mike
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Pita Mike

Well Bob, my asawa believes you’re making the right decision. We only lived in the Philippines for six years, but returning to the U.S. was a good choice for us. My wife lived in the states for 30 some years before we moved to Dinalupihan, Bataan in May, 2012. We decided on Hudson, Florida for our new location. We are both happy and both blessed. Hope you and Feyma feel the same.

Mark G.
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Mark G.

Where ever you end up enjoy your lives together. One never knows how much time we have for that. Time is the one precious commodity none of us can afford to waste. Where we spend it is a lot less relevant than who we spend it with! Best of luck my friends. 😉

Tom Bickers
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Tom Bickers

Hi Bob,

I heard you may be going back here to the States. God bless your decision whatever it is. But if you do go back here and need a faithful worker to help any of your businesses back there Id be very happy to do that… ie. customer service, mgmt, etc.

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